๐ฏ The Next Chapter Rule
You don’t have to reinvent your life to begin a new chapter.
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Welcome to Better at Life, the weekly newsletter where I share one simple, actionable idea you can put into practice today to build better habits, sharpen your mindset, and live with more intention.
Last week marked 52 issues of Better at Life.
And before we begin another year, I want to say thank you.
Thank you for reading, sharing these ideas, and supporting the book as it makes its way into the world.
I also have a little news worth celebrating.
Better at Life reached #3 in Human Resources & Personnel Management and #1 in New Releasesย Human Resources & Personnel Managementย on Amazon.
I have to admit, seeing those numbers was a pretty special moment.
A moment worth celebrating. Thank you for helping make it happen.
But what means even more is knowing that an idea I’ve spent so much time thinking about is now finding its way into other people’s lives.
So thank you for being part of that.
And as I thought about the first year of this newsletter, the book launch, and everything that comes next, I kept coming back to one question:
How do we begin a new chapter without feeling like we have to reinvent our entire lives?
The Next Chapter Rule
There’s something about a new beginning that makes us want to change everything.
A new job. A new year. A new opportunity. A new season of life.
Suddenly, we’re making plans to become a completely different person.
Preferably by Monday.
But most meaningful transitions don’t require us to start over.
They require us to decide what deserves to come with us.
That’s the idea behind the Next Chapter Rule.
Before you rush into what’s next, ask yourself three questions.
This Week’s Action
1. Keep: What’s worth carrying forward?
Not everything from your previous chapter needs to change.
Maybe it’s a relationship, a routine, a strength you’ve developed, or a value you’ve learned to protect.
Identify one thing that’s working and deserves to stay.
2. Release: What no longer fits?
Some things served us well for a season but don’t belong in the next one.
An old expectation. A habit. A commitment. A definition of success.
You can appreciate what something gave you without carrying it forever.
3. Explore: What possibility deserves a closer look?
You don’t need a five-year plan to begin exploring.
Sometimes the next chapter starts with a conversation, a question, or a small experiment.
Choose one possibility to explore without demanding an immediate answer.
Write this down:
You don’t have to become someone entirely new. Sometimes growth means carrying forward what matters and leaving behind what doesn’t.
Why This Works
Transitions can feel overwhelming because we treat them like complete reinventions.
But change becomes more manageable when we separate what should stay from what needs to go.
Keeping gives us stability.
Releasing creates room.
Exploring allows us to move forward without pretending we know exactly how everything will turn out.
Try This
Take five minutes this week and complete these sentences:
- I’m keeping: __________
- I’m releasing: __________
- I’m exploring: __________
Then take one small action connected to your answer.
Nothing dramatic required.
Weekly Reflection
Before you move on from this email, pause for a moment.
Think about the chapter you’re in right now.
What has this season taught you?
What are you proud of?
What are you ready to leave behind?
And what possibility are you curious enough to explore?
Write it down.
You might discover that you’re more ready for what’s next than you thought.
If this idea feels useful, feel free to pass it along to someone who’s navigating a new chapter of their own.
As Better at Life begins its second year, I’m reminded that progress rarely looks like a straight line.
There are celebrations, setbacks, unexpected turns, and moments when we’re simply figuring things out as we go.
We don’t need to have every chapter planned.
We just need to be thoughtful about how we begin the next one.
See you next week โ a little better at life.
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Dr. Chris Mullen
Bring Better at Life to Your Organization
If these ideas resonate, this is also the work I bring into organizations and leadership teams.
I partner with organizations that want clearer thinking, stronger decision-making, and more sustainable performance.
Engagements typically include:
- Keynote speaking for conferences and leadership events
- Leadership development workshops for teams and managers
- Team strategy sessions focused on alignment and execution
For senior leaders seeking deeper application, I also maintain a small executive coaching practice.
